I don’t know about you, or even whether you have these thoughts, but it’s the everyday stuff that filters through my mind.<\/p>\n
I think about the routines.<\/p>\n
And I think ‘What will happen if I\u2019m not here?’<\/p>\n
Who will do the things that I do?<\/p>\n
Who will cover for me at work?<\/p>\n
Who will put the bins out on a Wednesday?<\/p>\n
Who will do the washing up?<\/p>\n
Who will deliberately be the focus of occasional jokes, for the emotional betterment of friends, colleagues, loved ones?<\/p>\n
Who will fill the gap in the lives of these friends, colleagues, loved ones – a gap that should be filled with mirth, and infrequent faux rage?<\/p>\n
And it isn’t so much the ‘who?’; it’s the ‘what happens if nobody else does these things?’<\/p>\n
A guy I know died on Saturday.<\/p>\n
He was much younger than me.<\/p>\n
He leaves behind two small children, and their grieving mother.<\/p>\n
And I wonder how they’re dealing with the crushing grief that I know they must be living through.<\/p>\n
I hope they’re going to come out of this without permanent damage.<\/p>\n
I wish I could help, but I don’t know them.<\/p>\n
So I think about some of the things that he did.<\/p>\n
And I wonder how they are coping with the gaps.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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