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On letting go

This isn’t easy to write.

For no other reason than my life is not the same as it was a couple of years ago, I have to make a crucial change.

Horses aren’t pets. If they’re not regularly worked, exercised and competed, they stop thriving and can even become unmanageable, argumentative and difficult.

When I bought Tom, the intention was to compete, to have fun and to be out and about, being busy in the dressage, show-jumping or eventing arenas, whenever I had a spare moment. Two years ago, when I started looking for an event horse, I had what seemed to be an amazing amount of spare time.

Unfortunately, things have changed. These days I not only don’t have the necessary time to compete, I don’t even have the time to school Tom six days a week.

So the search begins for a good home for the chap; a home where he won’t be wasted, and won’t be standing around all day waiting for something to happen.

It’s the right thing, but that doesn’t make it any easier.

11 thoughts on “On letting go”

  4. That sounds a real bugger.

    You’re so true in saying that it’s not easy because it’s right.

    Hope you find the chap a good new home without too much grief.

  6. Awww Bren, that must have been a decision which cut you deep. I’m sorry you had to go through that. I suppose the only positive in the situation is that you have control over where Tom lives next. You will make the right decision because you have integrity xx

  7. Previous posts have made it evident how much Tom is a part of your life, so I can understand how hard this is for you.

    Console yourself with the thought that you are doing this for the right reasons and for Tom’s sake.

    In the hands of a more selfish owner in your position, Tom might find himself neglected.

  8. Good on you for taking a decision in the Tom’s best interests. I hope you find him a suitable home where he’ll get the work and the exercise he needs. If I win the euromillions on Friday I’ll be giving up work so will take him off your hands. I have to add that I wouldn’t take that as a definite placement since I have tried to win the euromillions a few times and it seems to be more difficult than I first envisaged. Give Tom a carrot and a pat from me will you?

  9. New here. Annie sent me and not under any duress either…..well, not too much.
    A very selfless act on your part. Good lick in finding a good home for your horse.

  10. Stopping over from Lady X, my horse is on stall rest. He got laminitis in his right hind with rotation. It may have been white line. The good news is we trotted him on the lunge 2 weeks ago for the first time since August and he’s sound. But only grown out about 65%, like watching paint dry……young horse with lots of potential so keeping good thoughts.

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